Well as you can guess I get all sorts of reactions to the things I do to myself and others. It took some time for my dad and sister to accept it, maybe two years or so. I wasn’t offended by their concern as I knew it came from their love for me. Although my dad isn’t too happy about all the blood letting and scars I have. The first time my sister saw me get beat to all hell at a birthday party, there were definitely some mixed feelings but knowing it’s all consensual eases the mind. Strangers out in the world are usually put off when I have very fresh scars and bruises that are visible. Most of my scars are isolated to my back and there are many so I understand why people would whisper about them when I’m in public. I really don’t care what other people think but I do cover scars and fresh wounds when it’s appropriate. Usually when I’m in an environment that calls for it like meeting someone’s parents for the first time or in a job interview. My doctor always has the BEST reactions when I come in to get wounds checked out to make sure everything is healing properly. He calls me his weirdest patient haha and is surprisingly very supportive of me and my odd hobbies. I’ve had the amazing luck of having two appointments during residency week and man were those residences surprised when they realized what I was there for, once was to check out 7 leech bites and the other to check on a cut that had 3 stitches in it (I had my play partner cut me and stitch me up). I truly believe they will never forget me hahah the surprise in their eyes is something I know I’ll never forget. I do love to shock and scare people, makes me giggle like a school girl.

If you are curious about BDSM or more specificity blood play or body modification please do your research on people before you agree to participate in anything with them. For regular BDSM play, go to a dungeon and ask around about classes or munches (BDSM hangouts usually at a bar or restaurant) so you can find a partner who is knowledgeable a bit what they are doing. Same thing goes for blood play, which is just a more intense side of S&M, you need someone who is trained in some way or another. I personally play with a professional piercer and tattoo artist. To do blood play properly you need an understanding of blood safety and sharps safety, how to keep you and your partner safe while inflicting open wounds no matter how small. Blood play has the potential to be very dangerous when not done properly which is why when I was ready to dive into it I found a partner who I knew would understand what he was doing. I was fresh and green in the BDSM world and had a previous partner injure me. I learned from my mistake and went onto Fetlife, which is Facebook for people into BDSM, and posted in a message board for needle play and filtered through the responses until I found Sir Laidir, a professional piercer and tattoo artist. I knew I wouldn’t have another accident with someone like him and we’ve never had one.

Does it hurt, hahah of course it hurts!! You know that’s the most common question people ask me? I feel every single thing that I have done to my body and yes it seriously hurts sometimes. I process consensual pain in a different way than one would process unconsensual pain. So when you stub your toe or bump into a door way it seriously sucks and that pain I absolutely hate haha I’m such a complainer when I stub my toe but the cuttings and piercings hurt it a very different way. When I ask for the pain I’m using it for something, mostly a way to release pent up emotions. It’s a form of therapeutic release, being brought to the edge of what I can handle and screaming and crying and letting everything out. The pain for me is the whole point, it allows my brain to be present in my body. Feeling everything all at once just to have it released as I feel blood running down my sides pooling under me. With a sexual partner the pain serves a different purpose, arousal of course. I don’t use blood play as much in sexual relationships, I use impact play more so for that. Getting blood all over my partner and the floor or bed or whatever we are on isn’t something that I want to do. It’s much more enjoyable to to be flogged or paddled in a sexual situation for me.

Sanctuary Studios LAX is my home because I finally found what I was looking for my whole life, my people. I’ve never fit in anywhere before, always had a new group of friends every year. When I started performing there and eventually working there as security I realized these people truly understood me and accepted me for who I am and what I’m interested in. I wasn’t judged for enjoying being cut and pierced but encouraged to perform and teach classes if I wanted. I won’t speak about the staff much as privacy is a pillar of our community but I will say they are incredible. Our security staff for events are kind and want to ensure the safety of all our patrons. Mistress Cyan is the owner of Sanctuary Studios and she is such an incredible woman, I feel truly honored to run her security staff for events. She is one of the best bosses you could hope for, she really cares about every staff member and every patron that comes though the door.

In ended up in I CUT YOUR FLESH when I responded to a post on Fetlife about someone wanting to make a movie involving real needle play. After meeting up with Sam and talking about what he wanted to shoot we both realized that a scripted film wouldn’t be as much fun as just documenting the things I already do in my normal life. We set up some regular needle play scenes and some more intense piercing and cutting scenes with lots more blood. We had lots of fun trying to figure out how to out do what we had done the time before. I tried things I hadn’t done before and found things I would love to do again. Sam and I have talked about making another movie or at least some sort of shorts and I’m sure we will once life gets back to normal after COVID.

Ehh I’d say it’s par for the course for any woman who puts her body out there for people to see. It’s something in our society and this day in age that women have to deal with regularly in the kind of life style I choose to have. For me personally I get usual overly confident man sending me overtly sexual messages on Fetlife and rarely on Instagram. I just ignore them or sometimes block them if the message is really bad. I think the intensity of me bloody deters many of the creeps and the fact that I’m a switch, meaning sometimes I’m the one cutting or piercing, scares off most of them. I can be very intimidating when I want to be haha

I’ve been to San Diego ComicCon once which was mind blowing, hadn’t been to a convention that big before. Days of the Dead was such a blast, I had no idea there would be that many people interested in our film. It was my first horror convention and I loooved it so much. It was such an honor to meet fans of the movie and have them ask for me to sign posters. I was almost fan girling over my fans hahaha I actually texted my sister soooo excited that people were asking for my autograph. It really made the weekend for me. I would love to go to more conventions if they don’t interfere with my job at Sanctuary. We run our own convention called DomCon which is a BDSM convention that happens twice a year, first in LA and then in New Orleans. I help as much as I can with those two events and hope to get in at least one performance at them next year. It’s truly beautiful seeing a gathering of such like minded people together.

Following my Instagram “ theadventuresofsox “ is the best way to keep up with my shenanigans and my Fetlife “ MissSox “ is where all my uncensored photos are. I try to keep both updated as best I can when I have things to post.